Self-esteem is the foundation stone for mental and physical wellbeing and self-confidence. How you perceive yourself influences your personality and behaviour to some extent. By overcoming self-doubt you give your self-esteem and self-confidence an opportunity to shine.
Research suggests that the foundations for self-esteem are created during your pre-teen and teenage years. This means your parents and other influential adults can heavily influence your self-esteem in your pre-adult years. Whatever has influenced your self-esteem issues it’s your choice to stick with them or tackle this issue. You can’t turn back time but you can choose not to be trapped in your history.
There are many things you can do to minimise the potential harm to your self-esteem. The first one is – stop comparing your life and circumstances to others. We all have different hopes and aspirations. Therefore, comparison is a pointless exercise.
Any evaluation of your achievements should be based on your effort and satisfaction level; not someone else’s. Stop caring so much about what others think and care more about what you think. Yours is the only opinion that really matters.
Self-confidence will give you the mental resilience not to be heavily influenced by those who try to bring you down. Here are just five benefits you can expect if you tackle your self-esteem issues:
- You learn to be your friend by valuing and appreciating yourself
- You have the confidence to stop comparing yourself to others
- You give yourself permission to do the things you enjoy instead of what others expect you to do
- You learn from your failures and setbacks instead of being defined by them
- You learn to be kinder to yourself and others
I’m sure you know where your self-esteem issues have come from. My question to you is – what are you going to do about it?
If you’re not sure where to start with addressing your self-esteem issues try this 30-day challenge.
- For the next 30 days challenge yourself to make 10 positive declarations each day about yourself or your achievements that day. Try to avoid simply repeating the same positive declarations every day
- At the end of this 30-day challenge read your list of achievements
- Give yourself a mental pat on the back for all you’ve achieved
- Now set yourself some new goals that will increase your self-esteem, self-confidence, skills or knowledge base
My final thought goes to Mandy Hale (author of The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass). “You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less travelled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though everybody is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in”. Now that’s what I call confidence!
Until the next time…