Of course tenacity, luck and hard work have a key role to play in success. All too often we overlook the role self-confidence plays in success. Self-confidence puts you in the right mindset to succeed.
Are you one of those people who feels opportunities go to others but never to you? The truth is we all have opportunities; probably more than we realise. If you lack self-confidence then you almost certainly miss opportunities.
Do you have a list of excuses why you can’t do something? When opportunity knocks on your door it’s your responsibility to seize it. All too often lack of self-confidence and courage are the reason people don’t grab opportunities with both hands.
Unfortunately, I’m impulsive by nature. This often means I ‘jump in’ without giving due consideration to what’s on offer. Each time I promise I won’t do this again but, in truth, nothing changes.
If I was a little more measured in my decision making I would consider what’s on offer and then confidently decide the way forward. This is the sensible approach and means that you confidently make decisions that move you forward. With my approach I gain self-confidence from paddling like mad when I find myself in a new situation.
Whether you confidently make considered decisions or jump right in both options will increase your self-confidence. Which will you choose – confidently making choices or gaining confidence by flying by the seat of your pants?
If you want to develop your self-confidence and use it to help you achieve success then start by identifying your strengths and abilities. Create a list of all your strengths and abilities, and keep this somewhere safe. When you’re job hunting or seeking promotion revisit your list and identify how your existing skills can help you with your new choice.
Here are my top five nevers….
1. Never allow your own self-limiting beliefs to top you trying new things. Who knows where opportunity might take you
2. Never allow others to make you feel inferior (different doesn’t mean inferior). Be optimistic and choose to see the best of you
3. Never tell yourself you can’t do something. It may be tough but you’re probably much more capable than you realise
4. Never allow failure to stop you trying again. We all experience setbacks. That’s just part of being human
5. Never stop yourself reaching for the moon. You may reach the stars instead, but that’s a worthy achievement
If your attempts don’t bring success first time around remind yourself ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’. If you’re persistent then success will come. Know what success looks like to you so you can spot it in future.
I’m delighted to tell you that we will be launching The Self-confidence Academy on 13 November. This offers 20 mini on-line programmes to help you turn self-doubt into self-confidence. If you’d like a sneak preview of what to expect, I’m making the first programme free. Here’s the link – Welcome to the World of Self Confidence
Until the next time…