“Today is your day and nothing can stand in your way” (Shania Twain – Today Is Your Day).
Your fears are a confidence barrier. If greater self-confidence is a genuine aspiration then you can’t spend the rest of your life hiding behind your fears.
Do you believe you have the skills to achieve the goals you set for yourself if lack of self-confidence didn’t get in the way? If so, then now is a great time to break down your confidence barrier and replace it with lasting self-confidence.
You should know that we all experience self-doubt sometimes. Even the most confident and successful among us have to confront self-doubt on occasions. The difference between the successful and unsuccessful is a willingness to deal with the problem.
Something else you should know… self-confidence is a learned behaviour. None of us are born with or without self-confidence. It’s your life experiences and self-beliefs that develop your self-confidence, or not.
There are many ways to overcome self-doubt and replace it with self-confidence. As a self-confidence coach, I treat developing greater self-confidence as a snack; rather than a feast. Some believe a few coaching sessions will fix the problem. It may well give you a short-term confidence fix, but I want to help you achieve long-term, sustainable, self-confidence. This will take you through all life’s ups and downs.
So, let’s start at the beginning. Here are eight small steps to help you break down your confidence barrier:
1. Stop comparing yourself to others. It’s a waste of time as you’re a one-off, not a mass produced being
2. Set realistic goals for yourself. All goals need to stretch you a little, as that’s how you grow and develop. If you make your goals too big then you damage your self-confidence as you’ll feel like a failure
3. Stop the self-criticism. Every time you criticise yourself you damage your self-esteem a tiny bit. Accept all your successes and failures with equal grace. After all, life is meant to be a learning experience
4. Fight your fears. Fear is your greatest enemy. If you don’t face up to your fears your self-confidence will be damaged and the problem will simply get worse
5. Recognise and reward every achievement (big or small). Take pride in every achievement as this will help build your self-confidence. Remember, lots of small steps amount to a big journey
6. Believe in yourself. Without self-belief it’s virtually impossible to develop a healthy level of self-confidence
7. Control your thoughts. If your default mindset is always negative, rather than positive thinking, then do your self-confidence a favour and get this under control
8. Start by setting yourself some mini goals. These can be work related, personal interests, or increasing your self-confidence. Setting and achieving mini goals is a great way to increase your self-confidence
So, now you’ve started your self-confidence journey where do you go from here? Well, I have a suggestion for you. Why not try some of the programmes in The Self-confidence Academy. As a personal gift to you, here is a link that will give you free access to the first programme in The Self-confidence Academy – http://bit.ly/2mlYfl7.
Now you’ve started your self-confidence journey I hope you’ll keep going. Today is the first day of the rest of your life; don’t waste it. My final thought goes to Mark Victor Hansen (American inspirational and motivational speaker). “Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what! Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful”.
Until the next time…